“ So many people are afraid of taking risks. And they are so afraid of betting on themselves just in case they fail. But I've come to realise that people aren't afraid of failure, people are afraid of failing in front of other people. And I think once you take that out of the equation, and you're like, you know what, even if I do fail, I would rather be the person in the ring, fighting for what I want, and falling a few times and stumbling, then be the person in the audience judging and pointing and saying how that person could have done it better. So, I think when you take a risk on yourself, you realise it's really about choosing you and choosing the life you were destined to live. ”
Candice Mama Top Five Tips For Harnessing in Power
1. Overcoming difficulties
2. Using pain as fuel
3. Taking a risk on yourself
4. Listening to your intuition
5. Choosing you
TIME STAMP SUMMARY
01:07 How trauma shapes us
02:51 The story of forgiveness
11:32 Failure is a lesson
16:15 Summary of the Top Five Tips
Where to find Candice?
Who is Candice Mama?
My name is Candice Mama, I was born in 1991 in South Africa a country that was gripped by the grossly violent and oppressive system of Apartheid and this is my story.
In September 2014 , The National Prosecuting Authority reached out to my family to enquire about whether or not we would like to meet Eugene de Kock ( a former South African Police colonel, torturer, and assassin, active under the apartheid government. Nicknamed “ Prime Evil” and sentenced to 212 years in prison under 89 charges). As many would imagine, it wasn’t a decision we came to without many dinner-table discussions and some trepidation from members of the family.
We agreed to schedule our meeting for the following Tuesday. In the days to come, a sense of self-reflection enveloped me. My dad, Glenack Masilo Mama, was brutally killed in a vicious and unjust time in our country’s history. My memories of him were nothing but compilations of different people’s stories and pictures we collected over time. However, the one thing I knew for sure about my father was that he had been tortured and then burnt to death by a man named Eugene de Kock. I went on to read numerous articles and books about the man dubbed Prime Evil and his legacy, which was that of being the face and embodiment of an unjustifiable system of hate and oppression. Growing up in a house where reading and introspection were encouraged allowed me to be able to contextualise my dad’s killing. Which, in my mind, made his death mean something.
He died fighting a system and wanting a different country for my brother and myself, which we are extremely fortunate to now be living in. This made me realise I couldn’t hate De Kock because love and hate cannot operate in the same space. If I wanted to resent him, I would never be able to fully enjoy the life my dad and so many others willingly or unwillingly died